Ask the Alzheimer’s Expert is brought to you each week by Elayne Forgie and the Alzheimer’s’ Care Resource Center
Question: What do I do when I can no longer cope with the day-to-day challenges of caregiving?
Answer: For many Alzheimer’s caregivers, there comes a time when they no longer feel able to provide adequate care at home. They realize that they don’t have the skill, energy, and support to orchestrate round-the-clock supervision and daily activities tailored to the person’s increasing needs and few remaining abilities. That’s the time to take the final step in Alzheimer’s care – placing the person in a nursing home or assisted living facility.
Some people feel that placing a loved one signifies some type of failure. On the contrary, placement is often necessary for the person with Alzheimer’s diseases safety, as well as for the overall health of the caregiver. Many caregivers agonize over placement and then, once their loved one is placed, they regret that they did not make the decision sooner.
The Care Navigators at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center recognize that the decision to place your loved one is difficult, and it’s natural to feel that no one can take your place. It’s also natural to feel guilty about “abandoning” your loved one, but placing your loved one into an assisted living facility or nursing home, is not abandonment. Chances are you have sacrificed a great deal for the person you care for, and simply can’t continue to do so.
If you are struggling with the emotions and the decision to place your loved one, or if you need help finding the very best solution, reach out to the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center today. One of our Care Navigators can help!