Wednesday Workshop – The Do’s and Don’t’s of Home Care from a Distance
Hello and welcome to today’s Wednesday Workshop. Meeting the needs of an aging parent or loved one is tough already, but when you’re far away things can become even more of a challenge.
First, know that you’re not alone. It’s estimated that there are 2.3 million Americans living more than one hour away from the person whom they are responsible for. That means that there are lots of others who are facing the same challenges that you are. The hardest part is deciding which tasks you are capable of from a distance, and which tasks are better left to others.
Here are some do’s and don’ts that will help you to determine your role and to feel less overwhelmed while giving your loved one the best care possible.
DO Schedule Visits Regularly
It’s important that you’re there on a regular basis to check in physically with your loved one. It doesn’t have to be very often, but it does need to be regular and reliable in order to give your loved one a sense of security and connection. When you do visit, make sure that you build in time to connect with your loved one to work on keeping your relationship strong.
DON’T Try To Be Their Parent
It’s not your job to step in and be the parent of your loved one. Maintain boundaries as much as you can, and work with your loved one to create the kinds of boundaries that are appropriate for their situation and yours. Respect their dignity and independence as much as possible, even as you take on a more active role in their life. Keep them abreast of decisions about finances, home care, medical concerns, and anything else that’s important.
DO Understand Financial Concerns
There are some fantastic options for helping your loved one to manage their finances. Online banking can be a real benefit for you as a long distance caregiver, as you can monitor bills and expenses from miles away. It’s important to be aware of additional costs like medical equipment, home care, and home maintenance that are specific to seniors.
DON’T Ignore Your Intuition
If you feel as though there’s something wrong with any aspect of your loved one’s care, take action to investigate. It’s much better to be on the safe side than to regret not speaking up later. Home caregivers can help you to check in more regularly with your loved one to investigate, and services like Care Management from the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center allow family caregivers to monitor care closely.
To learn more or to speak with us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center
Feel free to call us at (877) 760-9199 or email us below. Thanks for watching today’s Wednesday Workshop and we’ll see you again next week!