Question: Do the everyday stresses of caregivng* sometimes weigh so heavily upon you that you sometimes find yourself feeling so angry that you can’t imagine how you can be a nurturing caregiver?
Examples: You are asked the same question repeatedly by your care receiver, anger is unjustly directed at you for some imaginary reason, you have confusing medical decisions to make and very contradictory information upon which to base your choices.
This blog post and this month’s Navigating the World Within Wednesday Workshop focuses on how to help yourself (self care) manage angry feelings so you can be the nurturing caregiver you want to be.
Our “Star” Role Model
Born: July 18, 1918
Sun Sign Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
At age 70 Nelson Mandela was released from over two decades of imprisonment. In 1994 he was elected and inaugurated into the presidency of South Africa at age 71. Had he allowed himself to become consumed by anger at the oppressive conditions that caused him to endure incarceration it is likely he would not have even lived to achieve worldwide fame and greatness. Now almost 20 years later, at a time when the end of his life may be near, people throughout the world acknowledge how his tremendous internal strength changed his nation and the world. His famous inauguration speech (see below) calls upon people to demonstrate their “greatness. ” This speech is often quoted as an inspiring call for people to be all they can be – even in the face of daunting circumstances. We know prison is typically an anger and even rage-provoking environment. Nelson Mandela is an unequivocal testament to the knowledge that it is possible to transcend and/or transmute anger.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, [and anger} our presence automatically liberates others.”
This month’s Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center Wednesday Workshop focuses on teaching and sharing techniques to transcend and calm anger. It offers guidance on how to restore yourself to an inner state of peacefulness so you can be nurturing to yourself and others.
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