Wednesday Workshop – Mastering Your Emotions: Never Lose Control Again
First, understand that the ONLY REASON anyone does anything is to change the way they feel.
If you want to make more money, lose weight, or buy a new item of clothing – you’re doing it because of what you think it will give you, which is a certain emotion. For example, you believe that by losing weight you will feel more confident. Or by attracting this type of person into your life, you will feel loved. Or, by making a million dollars, you will feel happy.
Most people wait and put off the emotions they want to experience, instead of realizing the truth: you are capable of feeling those emotions RIGHT NOW!
Here’s what you can do to start:
1) Identify What You’re Really Feeling
When you’re experiencing this negative emotion or, ask yourself, “What am I really feeling right now?”
Get clarity on the emotion. “Am I feeling angry, or is it something else?”
2) Acknowledge and Appreciate Your Emotions, Knowing They Support You
Be thankful they are sending you a message. Cultivate the feeling of appreciation for all your emotions. They are there to serve you.
3) Get Curious About the Message This Emotion Is Offering You
Getting curious helps you master your emotion, solve the challenge, and prevent the same problem from occurring in the future.
Here’s some Empowering Questions to find the empowering meaning in any negative emotion or situation:
a. What else could this mean?
b. What can I learn from this?
c. How do I want to feel?
d. What would I have to believe to feel that way right now?
e. What am I willing to do about it right now?
4) Get Confident
The fastest, simplest, and most powerful way to handle any emotion is to remember a time when you felt a similar emotion and realize that you’ve successfully handled this emotion before. If you handled it in the past, you can handle it again today.
Ask yourself, “What did I do back then to deal with this emotion?”
If you do the same things, you will get similar results.
5) Get Certain You Can Handle This Not Only Today, But In The Future As Well
Again, you want to remember the ways you’ve handled this negative emotion in the past, and rehearse handling situations where this emotion would come up in the future.
Ask yourself, “What are 3-4 ways I could change my perception when an emotion comes up?”
Here’s a few suggestions:
To change your perception, ask yourself, “What else could this mean?” or “What’s great about this?” Another great question would be, “What can I do now to feel the way I want?”
At first your brain might say, “NOTHING!” But if you push yourself and keep asking, you will come up with an answer.
6) Get Excited and Take Action
The final step is to get excited of the fact that you can easily handle this emotion and take some action right away to prove that you’ve handled it.
And when is the best time to handle an emotion? When you first begin to feel it!
Obviously, to know how to master your emotions takes practice. The more that you use these 6 steps to emotional mastery, the better you will get at mastering your emotions.
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