Wednesday Workshop – Guilt Trip – How Not To Feel Trapped in Caregiving
It’s pretty common for caregivers to feel trapped and it seems that as soon as they take some much needed and well-deserved time for themselves, they can’t even enjoy it. Most caregivers spend that time taking themselves on nice little guilt trip instead. But guilt is remorse for having done something wrong, and for over 26 years, the majority of caregivers I’ve met have been doing a pretty great job at doing a whole bunch of things right.
So what is this guilt trip all about? How can you find ways not feel trapped?
First, recognize that unjustified guilt is destructive in so many ways. The worst aspect about this is that it makes caregivers believe that they are a failure, when in reality caregivers are the heroes and leaders when caring for someone that has dementia. Second, try lowering your expectations. So many caregivers are striving to get an “A” in everything that they have to do each day. But they grade themselves harshly, and then feel guilty when they only give themselves a “C”. When caregivers continue to set their standards at an “A” level which is close to perfection, they have subconsciously set themselves up to fail. Third, understand that you are going to continue to feel trapped in your caregiving role until you learn to be gentle with yourself and finally recognize that you are doing the very best that you can.
To contact the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center
Moving past guilt can be hard but the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center is here to help. Reach out to us today by calling 877-760-9199. Thanks for watching and we’ll see you next week!