The Reef for Male Caregivers – How to Ask the Family to be More Involved with Care
Hello and welcome. Are you a primary caregiver to a spouse, parent or loved one? If so, there may be times when you feel like “you’re doing it all”. You assist with care, you remind your loved one when to take their medicine, you drive them to all of their appointments. You sacrifice your time and energy to ensure your loved one gets the care they need. So, when you see your sibling posting vacation photos on Facebook, you tend to feel a little resentful. It doesn’t seem fair. Don’t they realize how overwhelming caregiving can be?
Hundreds of caregivers report that dealing with unhelpful/resistant siblings and family members is one of the most stressful aspects of caregiving. Luckily, we’re here to give you some strategies to help ensure that you no longer have to go at this alone.
1. Make your needs known
When family members see how well you handle your role as the caregiver, they may assume that you don’t need any extra help. This is why it’s so important to make your needs known. When family members ask how you’re doing, give them the honest answer. Say something like, “I’m hanging in there but I could use a break once a week.” Be specific. By telling the person you could use a break once a week, they might be inclined to offer help for that day.
2. Hold a family meeting
Stating your needs at a family gathering keeps everyone on the same page. Plus, you’re able to recruit help from more than one source. Let siblings, cousins, friends and other trusted loved ones know that you could always use a little assistance. Remember, if your family members aren’t comfortable with providing care to the person with Alzheimer’s, then there are other ways they can help like picking up a few groceries for the week or scheduling an appointment for your loved one. Think outside the box!
3. Set up a schedule
When family members come around and offer to help, accept it and schedule it! Once you get confirmation from the person, schedule some time for yourself. If their time with your loved one wasn’t too rough for them, then consider setting up a weekly or monthly schedule with them. Together, you both can map out who will be responsible on what days.
For more information or to contact us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center
Please call (877) 760-9199. Thanks for joining us today and we’ll see you again next month.