Have you ever had a day when you feel like no matter what you do, nothing goes right? Most people retreat to the safety of self pity where nothing is my fault – it’s the world ganging up on me. The good news is that we have a choice! We have the choice to pick ourselves up, dust off those negative thoughts and turn to positivity.
Just because some of our thoughts are negative doesn’t mean we have to listen to them. The truth is, you are not your thoughts. Think about it. The thoughts you have inside your head do not reflect who you are as a friend, partner, parent, or caregiver. Actually, most of the thoughts that roam around our heads are completely inane and useless! Your thoughts do not make you a bad person, because guess what? Your thoughts aren’t real. They are just fleeting ideas that you can control if you take the time to learn how.
So what can you do to tame your negative thoughts?
- Be aware.
Notice next time you experience a negative thought. Often we are so “in our heads” that we don’t even realize that we may be worrying about the future or regretting the past. This point also goes back to last week’s Monday Mojo about being mindful. If you want to learn more about mindfulness, just click here!
- Keep calm.
Try not to have an emotional reaction to any negative thoughts that pop up. Remember that you are not your thoughts, and try to distance yourself from them.
- Assess if the thought is true.
Most negative thoughts are not based on reality. So ask yourself, “Is that thought 100% true?” Usually this will help to break down the meaning of the thought.
- Look for a positive take on it.
Instead of finding ways to escalate the thought, do the opposite and look for ways to prove that the thought is not true. For example, if you’re doubting your capabilities you could look for an example of someone else who has achieved in this area. If someone else has done it, then what’s stopping you?
- Don’t beat yourself up.
You are not your thoughts. Resist the urge to beat yourself up when you catch yourself thinking negatively. Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time. Just be aware and choose not to listen to all of them so you can get on with living your life.
Today, take power back from your negative thoughts, and see how much more you can achieve!
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