Most of us have heard the saying “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do with what happens to you,” or maybe you might be more familiar with the statement “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” These statements suggest that one should rise above the circumstances in which he or she lives and refuse to be defined by those circumstances.
We should not let what happens in our caregiving role define our self worth or determine our attitude. We should not only refuse to let our circumstances determine our attitude, but also reject the idea that our experiences define our potential.
Circumstances, such as having a bad day, have the potential to make one feel that he or she can not achieve greatness or be happy. I am not saying that defining and determining our attitude is easy. It is not easy to be happy when one has to do something he or she does not want to do. It takes awhile to realize that your experiences do not define who you are, your character does.
Remember, you are not just a caregiver. You may also be a mother, father, brother or sister. An aunt or uncle, niece or nephew, a student, an employee, a cousin, a grandmother or grandfather, a wife or husband. The list goes on and on.
When we are given “lemons,” let us “make lemonade.” Like a wise man once said, “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”
Here’s the thing – the way that you see yourself is ultimately the person you will become. If you see yourself as a failure, incapable of greatness, and wholly untalented, you will never push yourself to grow and succeed. Just because you have not had your spark of genius yet, does not mean that genius is not inside of you waiting to be awakened. It is hard not to feel like a loser when you’re working a job that is not your dream, getting turned down, or struggling to break through barriers. But your current situation does not define you. It is your circumstance, not your identity – a season, not a life sentence. You are enough!
To speak with us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center, feel free to contact us at (561) 588-4545. Thanks for watching today’s Monday Mojo and we’ll see you again next week!