Question – My husband seems to be angry all the time. What can I do to help?
Answer – Anger is a strong emotional response that often shows itself as a desire to fight back at the cause of the displeasure. Sometimes if feelings of anxiety and frustration go unacknowledged, emotions can escalate into anger. Try these tips:
- Use a gentle, supportive approach and acknowledge his feelings
- Speak slowly and clearly. Misinterpreting a conversation may cause anger.
- Sudden noises or movements may startle him and can quickly lead to anger. Make sure you are in sight before touching him.
- Ask only one question at a time. Try not to contradict or scold. Step in subtly if he is struggling with a task.
- Be aware of the age-appropriateness of the activities you give him to do. He may become angry if engaged in child-like tasks
- Back-off and give him time to cool down if he becomes angry,
- Too much noise can cause frustration. Turn off the TV or radio.
- Keep a log showing when angry incidents occur. Look for triggers and patterns.
- Change can increase confusion and frustration. Try to keep a consistent routine.
- Side effects of certain medications can affect mood. Speak with his physician.
- Physical discomfort may cause anger. Consider whether he is in pain, constipated, or hungry.
- Try to remain calm and reassuring
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