Wednesday Workshop – What to Do When Your Care Receiver Doesn’t Recognize You
Hello and welcome to Wednesday Workshop. Here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center, we are in front of family caregivers, like you, every day. We’ve heard many caregivers say, time and time again, that dementia can be such a cruel disease. We understand. Family members of people with memory loss often need to brace themselves for a time when their loved one will no longer recognize them.
The pain of walking into your mom’s living room and her not recognizing you can really break some people down. Experts say it’s very normal to feel sad, abandoned and even a little angry when a loved one forgets special memories from the past.
Friends and family members who are unfamiliar with the disease will sometimes question or quiz the person with memory, often saying, “Do you remember me?” or “Do you know who I am?” You’ll want to educate that person and tell them to avoid quizzing your loved one. Rather than trying to gauge the person’s memory, simply introduce yourself with a short statement like, “Hello. My name’s Kortney and I am your daughter.”
You can reassure your loved one by calling them by their first name. Make them feel more comfortable by using a soothing tone and smile.
Remember, stick to simple sentences when speaking to someone with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia. Speak slowly and give the person ample time to capture your words and to come up with a response. Use facial expressions, body language and gesturing to get your point across but be sure not to talk to them with a “baby voice”. They are adults, talk to them as such. And smile – always remember to smile – it goes a long way.
We understand how difficult it must be to not be recognized by your loved one. Remember, they are not doing this on purpose, it is a symptom of the disease. If you need a professional to talk to about your feelings as a caregiver, then reach out to us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center.
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Feel free to call us at (877) 760-9199 or email us below. Thanks for watching today’s Wednesday Workshop and we’ll see you again next week.