Wednesday Workshop – 20 Lessons Learned from Alzheimer’s Caregivers
Hello and welcome to Wednesday Workshop. We are taught important life lessons every day, but the most memorable seem to come from those we love the most. Alzheimers.net asked the caregivers on Facebook what some of the most important lessons learned from loved ones with Alzheimer’s were.
This is what some of them shared:
1. That you need to make time to sit with your loved one and have a cup of tea and a conversation, even if limited. All these things become precious memories. I would give anything to have another precious moment with my Mom. –Marcia D.
2. Not to disagree with them. If your 88-year-old mother says her mom is alive and she just talked with her on the phone, agree and let it go. Try to have more patience. Yes, they are going to ask the same questions over and over. Expect that and roll with the punches. –Mary L.
3. My mother used to tell me that her mother came to visit, and that they went to the apple orchard and picked apples, and then went to get a malt. I would just say, “That sounds wonderful. I hope you had a nice day with your mother.” She would reply, “Oh, yes, we had a lovely day.” Who cares that it didn’t really happen? If it made her happy, great! –Dani P.
4. To love unconditionally, that’s what my Mom taught me. Even though she sometimes had no clue who I was, she never stopped loving me. It was an honor to be her daughter and caregiver. –Laura J.
5. That the things you regret are the things you never did. –Rachelle M.
6. That it is important to stay in touch with your loved ones. Alzheimer’s doesn’t discriminate and the length of time that people with the disease have always varies. –Roxy L.
7. That the heart remembers long after the mind forgets. –Judy F.
8. That it is important to enjoy life every day. Don’t worry about what you don’t have and be sure to appreciate what you do. –Clifton P.
9. That it is important to enjoy your youth. –Kristin D.
10. That people are more important than “things.” –Carla S.
11. That it is important to enjoy the memories, and not argue or stress, because one day you’ll want those days back again! –Nita B.
12. That you should not press them to remember things and that you shouldn’t take it personally if they don’t remember you. Keep spending time with them with plenty of hugs. –Ann E.
13. That they need you to stay with them for the long haul. –Tammie F.
14. That they still need our love and compassion and need be treated with respect. –Elizabeth S.
15. Even though they may ask the same question numerous times, know that it’s important to answer it like it’s the first time they are asking. –Beverly E.
16. That you can still interact meaningfully with the part of them that is still there. –Deb R.
17. To allow them to live in the moment. One day in their mind they may be a child again, looking for their own mom. The next, they may be a young parent themselves, worried about their child. Allow them that, and answer their questions as best you can to put their mind at ease in that moment. –Lisa F.
18. To always love them, laugh with them, touch them and hold their hand. –Stephany R.
19. Not to take what they say personally. They are sick and don’t really mean it. –Sylvia Z.
20. To help them live their life truth and create moments of joy for them. –Pamela R.
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