Monday Mojo for Alzheimer’s Caregivers
Sometimes life and care giving can get to us causing us to feel stressed, anxious and really unhappy. What do we do? While there are tons of ways of dealing with stress, we generally want to get to our happy place.
What and where is your happy place? How do you get there?
If you’re driving to work in rush hour traffic, thinking and stressing about all that faces you when you get to your patient, it would be almost impossible to have a relaxed and productive day. The stress would carry through the day, probably escalating as you dealt with each difficult behavior and challenging situation. Then you would further increase the stress on the drive home through another rush hour of traffic and annoying drivers while you dwell on the day and stress out about all you had to accomplish.
You would bring all the stress and anxiety of the day home to your family. By this time your nerves are fried and having a great conversation with your partner would be almost impossible. Instead, you would probably want to eat something quick and comforting (and probably unhealthy) while you veg out in front of the television. Then you would go to bed and wake up the next day to repeat the process.
Finding your happy place
Isn’t there a better way? Of course there is. You just have to slow down enough to get there.
We’re always in such a hurry to get somewhere, accomplish and achieve more and more. It’s rare that we slow down enough to ask where we’re really going.
Imagine this scenario instead.
You’re driving to work in rush hour traffic, thinking about the great conversation you had with your partner over a healthy breakfast and how to solve the problems that you know are facing you when you get to your patient. While you’re at work you work through your priorities in a relaxed and focused state. Interactions with others are peaceful. By the end of the day you feel good about all that you accomplished. During the drive home in rush hour traffic you’re thinking about the great dinner you’ll have with your family, your children’s big, loving eyes and the time you’ll spend on your hobbies.
What’s the difference between the two scenarios? Nothing about the outside world changed. Traffic and things at home and at the patient’s house were identical. The entire difference was a change in your attitude and the things you focused on.
The difference is all in your head. Literally.
How do you make the leap between the two scenarios? By learning to get to your happy place on a regular basis.
We sometimes think of a happy place as a physical place and it can certainly be that. Taking a walk in nature. Playing with our kids. Having coffee and a great conversation with a friend.
But we can’t limit our ability to find a happy place to something physical. We need to be able to carry it around with us wherever we go so it’s there whenever we need it. You’ll be amazed at how this simple exercise can transform your days and your life. You’ll have more energy. You’ll have a more positive outlook. Your relationships will benefit from your increased positivity.
To speak with us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center, feel free to contact us at (561) 588-4545. Thanks for watching today’s Monday Mojo and we’ll see you again next week!