Monday Mojo for Caregivers – 12 Things Caregivers Should Stop Doing for a Better Life
Hello and welcome to Monday Mojo for Caregivers. If you want to create change in your life, get clear on the definition of what a better life is for YOU. This will help you identify the key things that you need to STOP DOING so that you can have a better life.
Here are 12 things caregivers should stop doing for a better life:
1. Stop overcomplicating your life.
Complexity creates confusion and hides solutions in a haze of fog. It is very hard to be creative and innovative when you are bogged down with complexity and detail. Complexity will also prevent you from being open to finding the solutions that are often right in front of you.
2. Stop adding BAD stress to your life.
Bad stress is harmful to your health and I don’t need to quote all the scientific research that supports how harmful bad stress can be. To be blunt, BAD STRESS over a continuous period of time will KILL YOU – so if you are prone to creating BAD STRESS in your life PLEASE STOP. Figure out WHY you are doing this to yourself and change.
3. Stop saying you have NO TIME.
Whether it’s to be with a friend, to visit your elderly aunt, to watch the sunset, or to sleep peacefully, our time is so precious and you will never know when you run out of time. With no time, you can miss the most beautiful moments in your life. With no time, you will put off all the important things you know you should do however choose not to do because you say you have no time.
4. Stop procrastinating about all those things you say you want to do but never get around to doing.
Whether it’s taking up a cooking class, learning another language, going back to school, following your dream, or taking a painting class, go do it. Figure out what is important to you and what makes you happy and then go do it.
5. Stop looking to others for your happiness because your happiness can only come from within you.
When you look to others to make you happy, it is a sign that you are not being true to yourself. It is a dangerous thing to do because we can convince ourselves that being with the people we love does make us happy, however that is only part of the equation to you being happy.
6. Stop comparing your life to others.
If you are doing this, then please stop and focus on doing things that build your self confidence and self belief in you.
7. Stop waiting for the right time.
Don’t wait for the “right time” for you to take action, to make the change, to follow your dream, to do whatever it is that you need to do to be happy and have a better life. There never is a right time to be courageous, to initiate change and chase your dreams. If you choose to keep waiting for the right time, accept that your life will pass by and you will never attain that life you desire.
8. Stop running from your problems and taking the path of least resistance.
Running away from a problem or choosing the easy option does not give you a sense of achievement or make you feel courageous. Life is not perfect and it’s full of challenges, hard times and bad times. The challenges and problems we have in our lives have to be dealt with, and sometimes we have to be courageous and make difficult decisions.
9. Stop spending time with the wrong people as this will sap you of your energy, create friction in your life and get you nowhere.
The goal here is to minimize the impact they have on your life. The relationship you have with these people is toxic and will only bring unhappiness to your life.
10. Stop focusing on what you DONT want to happen – focus on what you DO want to happen.
Flip the coin – get your life vision sorted, get motivated and commit to making the changes you need to make to have a great life. Once again, its simple, but it requires work and perseverance from you.
11. Stop putting other people’s needs before yours – spend time getting to know you and look after yourself.
If you are doing this then you are not taking care of your needs. Ask yourself “why is it that I sacrifice my needs over those of others?”
12. Stop beating yourself up.
No matter what it is, stop beating yourself up about not being great, not being perfect, not being good enough, not being intelligent enough – just stop beating yourself up.
To speak with us here at the Alzheimer’s Care Resource Center
Please call (877) 760-9199. Thanks for watching today’s Monday Mojo and we’ll see you again next week.